p4p. bad math?

[beingme]

Okay I seen a lot of the "You pay for it one way another stuff around while exploring the forum. Personally I just don't get the reasoning behind it. It seems the price of a nice escort is at least $150 per hour. If you were to see an escort 4 times a month that's six hundred easy. Now let's say u had a lady you kick it with and you have "fun" together five days a week, ultimately 20 days out the month. Plus there is no by the hour clock. You go out frequently to restaurants, a little clubbing, maybe to the bowling alley or something. Not really hard to stay occupied without spending up the bank roll so let's say you spend a few hundred a month on dating. To do the same thing with an escort is a whopping $3000 if you only used a hour each time y'all meet up. Now I do see some people say they are paying an escort to essentially leave without all the strings and hangups that go alone with dating and I can understand where they are coming from but the whole we all pay one way or another statement looks pretty shaky. Welcome to hear others thoughts and perspectives. Maybe it's something I'm not seeing or comprehending.

[Juan]

You are missing out on a lot of things. It is not planning to go out to restaurants, clubbing, what have you that the price increase. You usually plan to go to a restaurant or a club so financially you are prepared to spend a certain amount of money. It is the small little unexpected things in which the spending starts to accumulate. By nature women are cheap and rather spend someone else’s money than their own. You may find a few that are willing to treat a man out on the town but, the majority will not.

Escorts that command a high price are not directing their services to those who look at their price as expensive but more as reasonable based on what they provide. Those services may include anywhere from freakier sex to keeping their mouth shut from the customer’s wife. Secrecy is the main reason why a price can escalate. If you have nothing to lose, you are not the type of guy the escort is aiming their services towards in which you see as expensive.

[carmencream]

You are missing out on a lot of things. It is not planning to go out to restaurants, clubbing, what have you that the price increase. You usually plan to go to a restaurant or a club so financially you are prepared to spend a certain amount of money. It is the small little unexpected things in which the spending starts to accumulate. By nature women are cheap and rather spend someone else’s money than their own. You may find a few that are willing to treat a man out on the town but, the majority will not.

Escorts that command a high price are not directing their services to those who look at their price as expensive but more as reasonable based on what they provide. Those services may include anywhere from freakier sex to keeping their mouth shut from the customer’s wife. Secrecy is the main reason why a price can escalate. If you have nothing to lose, you are not the type of guy the escort is aiming their services towards in which you see as expensive.

Thank you!

[beingme]

As far as the small expenses adding up man I'm be honest with you as a guy you really don't have to be fixing water heaters to go with a girl. Yes most women would rather spend some ones else money but who wouldn't just don't do it. I see what you saying about paying for secrecy or more kinky sexy but that still don't validate the "you pay one way or another" I here people going on about.... Thanks for the info though it did teach me a little something on the matter.

[Juan]

But you do pay one way or another. Possibly, you are not seeing it that way for you are looking at the time spent with the person. Whether, you have sex with an Escort within 5 minutes or with a “lady” as you call it within 5 weeks of your first encounter, you are going to be spending money. I might add, the longer you have to wait to have sex with a “lady” as you call it, the more money you are going to spend in the long run.

How many “ladies” have you dated in which escalated into nothing? Have you ever tabulated the amount of money you invested under the given conditions?

[Magna Carta]

LOL. Paying for sex is something I'll never do and no flawed reasoning like "you pay for it one way or another" will change my perspective. Even if you do take someone out and pay for dates, I think it's pretty lame to do that only for the purpose of trying to get sex from them. If that's your purpose, then yeah....you might as well buy a hooker. If I'm taking you out, it's personal. Therefore I refuse to let someone tell me that spending time with someone is the same as buying a hooker.

[Juan]

LOL. Paying for sex is something I'll never do and no flawed reasoning like "you pay for it one way or another" will change my perspective. Even if you do take someone out and pay for dates, I think it's pretty lame to do that only for the purpose of trying to get sex from them. If that's your purpose, then yeah....you might as well buy a hooker. If I'm taking you out, it's personal. Therefore I refuse to let someone tell me that spending time with someone is the same as buying a hooker.

So you are saying it is perfectly fine on your behalf to spend an unprecedented amount of money and get nothing back in return? Surely the primary reason a man takes a woman out on a date is based on him finding her physically attractive.

Possibly you are the few, far and, between that, date a girl without, taking her physical attributes into factor but, that is not how the majority of men see things. Women know this which is why they will spend hundreds to thousands a dollars a year on beauty products in order to keep themselves physically attractive.

[Magna Carta]

So you are saying it is perfectly fine on your behalf to spend an unprecedented amount of money and get nothing back in return? Surely the primary reason a man takes a woman out on a date is based on him finding her physically attractive.

Possibly you are the few, far and, between that, date a girl without, taking her physical attributes into factor but, that is not how the majority of men see things. Women know this which is why they will spend hundreds to thousands a dollars a year on beauty products in order to keep themselves physically attractive.

It's actually pretty immature, IMO, to think that just because you take someone on a date that you're owed something in return. Also, I wouldn't date someone just because I find them attractive. That's one factor but there has to be something about them as a person that would make me want to spend that kind of time with them.

[Juan]

It's actually pretty immature, IMO, to think that just because you take someone on a date that you're owed something in return.

I think it is foolish to pay someone’s tab for a platonic date. There is a reason the term “Going Dutch” has been around for decades.

Also, I wouldn't date someone just because I find them attractive. That's one factor but there has to be something about them as a person that would make me want to spend that kind of time with them.

Right! However, it is the physical attributes of that person, that you found attractive that, drawn you to say… “Hi” in hopes to engage in a conversation in which, will lead to a date.

[beingme]

I have been on a date or two where there is no connection there and I've paid for the date but I never viewed it as a lost. For one you are always taking that gamble on the first date however all is not lost! By taking this girl out you have just gained a new acquaintance that has homegirls ready for future pickings I just see as paying the money forward. For me this has nearly always held true. Secondly unless you just really have a lot of money the first date is usually somewhere cheap. Movies? IHOP?