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07-21-2011, 01:46 PM #1
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Given: 1/0Why is always said that sex work is the only work for a TS
With all do respect, I am not knocking anyone that works in the sex industry but I never understand why it is always implied that a majority of TS women work in sex work because it's all they can get. I will not even attempt to think I understand the hardships that a TS goes through but I can't believe that most choose sex work because of desperation or no other alternative.
I worked in a administrative position for a major department store for a long time and we took the stance that we would hire anyone regardless of thier sexual orientation as long as they presented themselves that way every day..meaning that you couldnt look like a man on Monday and then a woman on Wednsday. Salespeople, make up artist, etc, make a pretty decent wage in retail to start off if you work hard and a degree in sometimes a diploma is not neccessary. I know that the lifestyle of a TS( maintenence wise) can be very costly but life for anyone trying to achieve major goals is never easy.
Black people in this country couldnt go to college in the early 20th century, so they started thier own. My point is anything worth having is worth sacrificing for. I am not trying to be preachy. Maybe some girls do sacrifece by working in the industry to get what they want quicker, or maybe some just like having sex and getting paid for it. That is not my point to criticize or judge anyone.
I was just wondering why it is often said that " for most girls, sex work is the only way they can survive" .
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07-21-2011, 05:26 PM #2
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Given: 3/0I agree for the most part, and there is no one single answer as to why so many choose the sex industry, aside from the quick and relatively easy money that can be gained.
I have a couple models who worked 9-5 jobs only to turn their backs on it and go full gusto into the sex industry. I think it's wiser to keep a job, any job, and supplement that with escorting if anything. The longer you go unemployed and without some legal paper trail of work history the harder it is going to be when they want to get out of the sex industry. They are creating a vicious cycle for themselves, but we all have our own lives to lead.
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07-22-2011, 10:39 AM #3
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Given: 0/0Simply put:
Most tgirls are afraid of the world. Do you understand how terrifying it can be to walk up to a place of employment look totally like a woman and have a male name on the application/legal documents? Then having questions pressed against you? Even if people have a non discrimination policy, this is our fear and generally a true fear.
Sex work requires nothing but looks and personality, sometimes not even both or either. It's easy work that's quick to find. No long interview processes or typical things you'd do at a "real" job.
What i've discovered is that we DO have options but the options aren't easy to come by. So generally we settle for sex work because it's what will make us the most money the quickest and a lot of us live in unstable situations where we have to make money fast to simply maintain our way of life.
But we do have options. We honeslty do. I plan on advocating this point when i'm further down the line in my transition/life. It's not always the answer. Things are getting better. A lot better.
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07-23-2011, 03:35 AM #4
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Given: 0/0Transfriendly Job Listings:
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07-23-2011, 02:59 PM #5
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Given: 3/0Shaking head
Why oh why.
I'm watching an episode of Style Exposed about MtF women living in NYC.
For the most part, some very positive stories to share and I'm going to leave it there.
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07-23-2011, 03:13 PM #6
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Given: 0/0Don't give the half truth! All information should be available for the people, other wise we're just communists!
0I shall now place one more soul to rest.
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07-23-2011, 03:30 PM #7
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07-23-2011, 05:12 PM #8
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07-23-2011, 08:20 PM #9
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07-23-2011, 08:35 PM #10
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Given: 0/0Kitty, on transwomen being afraid of the world, I'm going to have to beg to
differ with you.
The sheer act of transitioning takes a tremendous amount of courage. The
challenges that we may face from family, friends, and society are not for the
faint of heart.
I believe that you and I had a previous discussion about amending
identification and documentation. It's not paricularly difficult, expensive, nor
something that a woman must wait until she is 21 to do.
I actually feel that sex work is more difficult in many ways: the legality, STI's,
possible danger from clients, and being sexually intimate with someone that
normally one might not.
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