Discreet, and what it means to you.

[CosmicTraveler]

I was curious about what some of the ladies around here feel about guys who want to be discreet when dealing with transgirls during whatever it is they do. Would you still deal with a guy who feels like he can't be open about being with you? ( I find it hard to imagine the answer is yes, but not impossible, hence me asking. ) Would you use that against him? Give me a bit of insight, as I am generally bored.

Also, fellas, if you have something to add then by all means. For instance if you are someone who likes to keep your matters with TGs private, why? If you feel like you can't be open, then why do it at all? Discussion people! Have it!

[bxboy1984]

For me discreet differs from out right downlow.
Personally i consider myself open but discreet, meaning the people in my immediate family (my brother and cousin) know, as do a few friends. The grandparents who raised me knew as well b4 they passed. Only my dads side (including him) doesnt know and none are really in my personal week by week life. I dont hide it, and Ive had my old high school and college friends on fb ask (most simply gawk at some of the uber pretty ones and we continue on convo). BUT i dont wave a "i love trannies" flag or tshirt in my life mainly because everyone doesnt need to know. I have a few trans friends who arent perfect but oh well not everyones beyonce, keri washington etc.

I think most transwomen (at least the ones I know personally) simply want a guy who, in a moment, is WILLING to stand behind them if things go awry, but dont need you screaming through the hills you like trannies (in fact many i know prefer guys who dont specifically date ts, but the umbrella term 'women' with the genitalia a factor only for when you cross into bedroom).

Fnny thing the honesty some of us who still deal with backfires if we 'go back" to females.......so youre damn if you do damned if you dont if you have a heart somewhat.

[MrF]

^ Very good point. I always like your posts.

And I bet that the guy who is willing to be real and honest in his dealings will be rewarded by a love that is tenfold. You'd win the grand prize.

[bxboy1984]

^ Very good point. I always like your posts.

And I bet that the guy who is willing to be real and honest in his dealings will be rewarded by a love that is tenfold. You'd win the grand prize.

At the vey least respect from mature people
Unfortunately maturity isnt served often in life.

[CosmicTraveler]

I've dealt with the " going back " issue before. Me being the honest person I am, I told a girl I was involved with that I'd been with transexuals before. She freaked out at first, but eventually dealt with it. With some convincing of course. She was afraid I'd leave her for a guy, which wasn't going to happen for any number of reasons. For the sake of her comfort I even deleted a good bit of my porn ( which I regret more than anything about that relationship now that it's over. )

[Ms Remy M]

I was curious about what some of the ladies around here feel about guys who want to be discreet when dealing with transgirls during whatever it is they do. Would you still deal with a guy who feels like he can't be open about being with you? ( I find it hard to imagine the answer is yes, but not impossible, hence me asking. ) Would you use that against him? Give me a bit of insight, as I am generally bored.

Also, fellas, if you have something to add then by all means. For instance if you are someone who likes to keep your matters with TGs private, why? If you feel like you can't be open, then why do it at all? Discussion people! Have it!

Uggh, recently gave a potential male performer the boot, because he had issue with filming the opening scene to the HC outdoors in the daylight. Sorry, but if you only want to be 'around' trans in private, that tells me a lot about your character and thus I want nothing to do with you.

I see nothing wrong with being discreet per se, but the downlow crap is a no no.

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[CosmicTraveler]

I don't quite understand that notion. Why do things that fill you with shame? So much so that you don't wanna be seen in public with a person you're going to be doing them with... People put way too much stock in their " image " and what everyone thinks of them, when the reality is most of the time, no one gives a shit what you do. And if they do, it's because they aren't doing much with themselves.

[Ms Remy M]

People put way too much stock in their " image " and what everyone thinks of them, when the reality is most of the time, no one gives a shit what you do. And if they do, it's because they aren't doing much with themselves.

Hence, why I despise social networks and their insatiable desire to have everyone update their status and/or tweets about everything and nothing! Please; log off, read a novel, paint a picture, create a song, something, anything, more productive and thought provoking...

Paradoxically I do approve of Social Networks for the purpose of business and networking, just not the endless pursuit of many 'virtual friends' Sorry for losing topic, I've officially entered rant mode, and heading offline now. zombie smash! :p



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[CosmicTraveler]

Hence, why I despise social networks and their insatiable desire to have everyone update their status and/or tweets about everything and nothing! Please; log off, read a novel, paint a picture, create a song, something, anything, more productive and thought provoking...

Paradoxically I do approve of Social Networks for the purpose of business and networking, just not the endless pursuit of many 'virtual friends' Sorry for losing topic, I've officially entered rant mode, and heading offline now. zombie smash! :p



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I know what you mean. I do my best to keep my facebook page limited to people I actually want to talk to in person. And mainly use it for keeping contact with people who might be distant. No need to worry about keeping topic anyhow, I'm open for any discussion at any time... I'm bored.

[Indy24]

My life and my choices are not a democracy I don't care what the status quo is regarding issues I've already made up my mind on.

If I'm with a chick it's safe to say that we're on the same page anyway. So here's the rule of thumb...If a chick is attractive then you've gotta stay your ass in the house. And if your ugly you've gotta stay in the basement.

So how's that for discreet....

[thegirlnextdoor]

Uggh, recently gave a potential male performer the boot, because he had issue with filming the opening scene to the HC outdoors in the daylight. Sorry, but if you only want to be 'around' trans in private, that tells me a lot about your character and thus I want nothing to do with you.

I see nothing wrong with being discreet per se, but the downlow crap is a no no.

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the guy i did my shoot with??

[thegirlnextdoor]

if you want to get discretion than i need to get paid for it.i have no time to play down low games....to old for that now

[CosmicTraveler]

if you want to get discretion than i need to get paid for it.i have no time to play down low games....to old for that now

Does that mean you are more suceptible to not forcing guys to pay you if they want to say, go see a movie and later on take you home?


My life and my choices are not a democracy I don't care what the status quo is regarding issues I've already made up my mind on.


None of that really covers the " why " however. It's really just a general statement on how you feel, not why you feel that way. It's like when they ask if you want chicken or fish and you just say
" Yes. Yes I do. " But in any case I can't force an answer out of you.

[Indy24]

if you want to get discretion than i need to get paid for it.i have no time to play down low games....to old for that now

Yeah well Tiger Woods proved money doesn't pay for silence anymore. But if that's your hustle then have fun with it...

[thegirlnextdoor]

Does that mean you are more suceptible to not forcing guys to pay you if they want to say, go see a movie and later on take you home?



None of that really covers the " why " however. It's really just a general statement on how you feel, not why you feel that way. It's like when they ask if you want chicken or fish and you just say
" Yes. Yes I do. " But in any case I can't force an answer out of you.

a)i dont force anyone to pay.its not like im holding a gun to niggas head saying call me to book an appointment or else lol
b)the only time i entertain down low or "discreet" men is if they are clients.

[CosmicTraveler]

Yeah that came out wrong. I meant to ask whether or not you date guys without them paying or not as some girls don't.

[Indy24]

Wait so if I wear a "I love tgirls" shirt I'll get a freebie while these other lames who just want peace of mind and privacy pay?

Okay cool, that'll work then.

[CosmicTraveler]

Wait so if I wear a "I love tgirls" shirt I'll get a freebie while these other lames who just want peace of mind and privacy pay?

Okay cool, that'll work then.


Print one up for me too.

[Indy24]

Print one up for me too.I'm wearing mine to choir practice to keep them older fat women from flirting...

[CosmicTraveler]

Yeah, instead of flirting they'll just look at you shake their heads and then turn to their friends of the same description and say something like " chiiiillll', mmm mmm mmm " complete with stereotypical neck movements.

Or not. Hell if I know. I've never been to choir practice.

[Indy24]

Yeah, instead of flirting they'll just look at you shake their heads and then turn to their friends of the same description and say something like " chiiiillll', mmm mmm mmm " complete with stereotypical neck movements.

Or not. Hell if I know. I've never been to choir practice.
Cobra headed black women are what made tranny chasing all possible for me...

[CosmicTraveler]

I can't say I don't understand. In one way or another.

[qcutta]

For me, 'discreet' means my and the other persons business...sex wise, anyway. I like both GG and TS, and I've actually taken a few out in public (bowling, clubs, etc.). And like bg100 says, I don't go around telling the whole world I like TS, but if they see me with one, well, they just see me with one.

I haven't outright told my fam (they might have found some TS porn on my computer) but if I found one who I cared about (And really cared and gave a damn about me), then I would have no problem making her my main thang.

[kittymatthews]

Ya'll knows I LUH dis topic right heyah

Now, for me, i've discovered that not all "discreet' men are the same. While being discreet MAY be because of shame, some men just dont want their tea spilt to everyone. And ya'll DO know that some tgirls be so fucking shady that they WILL spill tea on whos dick they sucked at the club last weekend.

My personal reasons for not being with a guy who's discreet is because I feel that if I can't go out with a man hitting on me, then there's really no REASON to be discreet. Discreet men above and beyond, put themselves and their life OVER the girl they're trying to fuck. They believe that their lives nd their situations are too important and too sensitive to have them exposed. I'll be totally frank and honest with you guys. I've slept with a lot of men who's lives I could ruin. The men in LA, specially the ones I hit up are almost always in some way shape or form connected to the entertainment industry. I've been with guys that were on TV, guys who are in well-known bands, and executives at some big companies. And to be frank, it's only with those men who I feel the NEED to honor their request of discretion. But in all of those situations, it was just sex and I certainly didn't do it because they were semi or sorta famous or wellknown in the area.

ON average, with me, if a guy says discreet there isn't a chance. Because I respect myself enough to not be hidden. When I was an insecure, unsure crossdressing little teenager, i had no problem with discreet guys, i almost prefered it because i was ashamed of who I was and who I wanted to be. But now as a young, intelligent, transgendered woman who is passable, dont feel the need to honor the requests of "discreet" men unless I'm getting something from it like an experience with a person I feel is fascinating and fun enough to keep dirty little secret with. BUt you've gotta be one fascinating creative guy for me to do that. lol.


Anywho, if I were a guy, i'd be careful abotu saying discreet unless you're prepared to give her something in return because honestly, i think a lot of girls aren't into discreet guys unless there's something in it for them. Be it fucking a hot guy or makin' some dough.