Any advice?

[phi0820]

This is more venting than anything else. Just had a fairly big blow up with my family last night. I go to school out of state and I'm back up in Philly for the summer, staying with my parents. While I haven't been with a lot of t-girls, the family knows about them, and while they're definitely more open than most about it, they don't accept it. I'm basically the baby of the family, so everybody's very protective of me.

So last night I had planned to go to dinner with a girl...really nice, seems to have a lot going on for herself. We don't talk a whole lot, but there have been some loose plans for us to get together for a while now, and we had previously set a date twice for us to go out, but things just fell through at the last minute.

So everything was set for last night, and I'm on my way out the door when my mom figures out that I'm going out with a transsexual. She did not take that well at all. We basically got into a 2 hour argument/lecture about how what I was doing was wrong, what will the family think, etc. Lots of drama. It ends when I just make a stand and say that I'm going, but this is maybe an hour after I was supposed to pick her up. I grab my phone and she's understandably upset about me being that late and more or less cancelled. I try texting and calling her to let her know I'm coming, but she didn't answer or respond right away, I was already upset myself so I texted her back and cancelled. Needless to say, she's not happy about that.

So right now it seems like I've got a big pile of bullshit in my lap with the family and I haven't even tried to contact the girl yet. Not the end of the world or anything, and nothing I can't deal with, but it's still frustrating as hell. Not totally sure how I'm gonna handle all this yet, so any feedback's appreciated.

[tsamberskyi]

Lol how did she find out you were going out with a ts

[raheme]

Lol how did she find out you were going out with a ts

I'm guessing the "I bottom for ts cock" shirt he had was a dead giveaway. ..






I kiddddddd, I kidddddddd lol

[phi0820]

I'm guessing the "I bottom for ts cock" shirt he had was a dead giveaway. ..






I kiddddddd, I kidddddddd lol
In fairness, it is a nice shirt.

Nah, I told her we met online and she just randomly asked "it's not a transsexual, is it?" And I'm like "uh...yeah."

[TslovelyLuxury]

omg bullshit!... i know. my aunt is (well in her eyes) WAS gay all of her life up into like 5yrs ago when she went through a terrible break up. she met a chick who was married to a guy slept with her they got a divorce her & my aunt moved in together her son called my aunt mom then his mom cheated and my aunt moved out... her girl found another girl. just gay bs

well my aunt on the 4th of July called herself wanting to preach to me thru the fireworks how my life style isnt right.... hmm.... ... .. . wat topped it off she told me i couldnt have a relationship with god and i wont be a ts all my life. it just seemed sum bs her mom fed her that shes feeding back to me. my fam is a religious mess, i love them tho.

she ended the night saying she struggles every night trying to not think about women.. lol sooo SEEM LIKE UR GAYYYYYYYYYY TO MEEEEEEEEE!!!!! omg these folks and theyre confused craziness i told her im content with me and right now me and god are working on my self-esteem and confidence not sexuality or identity probs...so please keep ur shoes on cause i likes mine! meaning thats ur road im on mine. if he changed ur sexuality delivered u from sin thats what he did but seems to me ur running from urself.

so yes i know fam and they bs is crazy moms loves you! shell accept it one day and that girl will b ok shell be answering the phone soon not too many sexy open guys in the world so kisses her sweet booty, apologize explain and ur #WINNING lol

[tsamberskyi]

There is hope tho...my super religious and African father has started to call me his daughter.
Its your family, they love you and will eventually come around

[phi0820]

Well it's been a few hours since I last got asked explain what it's like having sex with "him" (yeah it got that deep), so I'm assuming things are getting better. Oh well. Thanks for the feedback.

[Ms Remy M]

Sucks things turned out the way they did. Not many people will tolerate being stood up despite the reasons. Stick to your guns and apologize (again) to the girl, or explore and find another girl to take on a date.

[werwt22]

This is more venting than anything else. Just had a fairly big blow up with my family last night. I go to school out of state and I'm back up in Philly for the summer, staying with my parents. While I haven't been with a lot of t-girls, the family knows about them, and while they're definitely more open than most about it, they don't accept it. I'm basically the baby of the family, so everybody's very protective of me.

So last night I had planned to go to dinner with a girl...really nice, seems to have a lot going on for herself. We don't talk a whole lot, but there have been some loose plans for us to get together for a while now, and we had previously set a date twice for us to go out, but things just fell through at the last minute.

So everything was set for last night, and I'm on my way out the door when my mom figures out that I'm going out with a transsexual. She did not take that well at all. We basically got into a 2 hour argument/lecture about how what I was doing was wrong, what will the family think, etc. Lots of drama. It ends when I just make a stand and say that I'm going, but this is maybe an hour after I was supposed to pick her up. I grab my phone and she's understandably upset about me being that late and more or less cancelled. I try texting and calling her to let her know I'm coming, but she didn't answer or respond right away, I was already upset myself so I texted her back and cancelled. Needless to say, she's not happy about that.

So right now it seems like I've got a big pile of bullshit in my lap with the family and I haven't even tried to contact the girl yet. Not the end of the world or anything, and nothing I can't deal with, but it's still frustrating as hell. Not totally sure how I'm gonna handle all this yet, so any feedback's appreciated.

In all honesty bruh, some information is just too much information. You dont have to have your life on broadcast for the world to see. They dont need to know whether you take it up the booty or if your the one giving LOL. You revealed enough when you told them. I told my 2 best friends, a couple cousins and my brothers. Sometimes you need to allow people time to accept things and not force it on them. Just be patient with them.

[kanguru]

That's a sticky situation. I don't like my family in my personal life at all, much less my sex life, so I can imagine how annoying that is.

I keep them out of it as much as possible because I've gotten lectures over damn near everything. I'm the baby of the fam. too, so I'm not sure if they just think I'm ignorant to the world or what, but I really wish they'd get the hell out my hair lol. It's sad, because I want to be open to them about things in my life like who I'm dating and what not, but I just can't.

One day in my life if I'm ever single again, I do have aspirations to date a TS. I'm just not going to live anywhere remotely near my family while I do. If you're able to move away from them and be your own person, by all means do it. Just getting out my mother's house was weight lifted off my soul lol. If only I could get out this state and move to ATL we'd be good hahaha.

[Rozay]

This is more venting than anything else. Just had a fairly big blow up with my family last night. I go to school out of state and I'm back up in Philly for the summer, staying with my parents. While I haven't been with a lot of t-girls, the family knows about them, and while they're definitely more open than most about it, they don't accept it. I'm basically the baby of the family, so everybody's very protective of me.

So last night I had planned to go to dinner with a girl...really nice, seems to have a lot going on for herself. We don't talk a whole lot, but there have been some loose plans for us to get together for a while now, and we had previously set a date twice for us to go out, but things just fell through at the last minute.

So everything was set for last night, and I'm on my way out the door when my mom figures out that I'm going out with a transsexual. She did not take that well at all. We basically got into a 2 hour argument/lecture about how what I was doing was wrong, what will the family think, etc. Lots of drama. It ends when I just make a stand and say that I'm going, but this is maybe an hour after I was supposed to pick her up. I grab my phone and she's understandably upset about me being that late and more or less cancelled. I try texting and calling her to let her know I'm coming, but she didn't answer or respond right away, I was already upset myself so I texted her back and cancelled. Needless to say, she's not happy about that.

So right now it seems like I've got a big pile of bullshit in my lap with the family and I haven't even tried to contact the girl yet. Not the end of the world or anything, and nothing I can't deal with, but it's still frustrating as hell. Not totally sure how I'm gonna handle all this yet, so any feedback's appreciated.

This is why alot of guys stay in the closet so they wont have to deal with shit like this..................me personally have a idgaf attitude but this is about you.It depends on your family they may come around but most likely wont you just gone have to deal with it either way

[tsamberskyi]

This is why alot of guys stay in the closet so they wont have to deal with shit like this..................me personally have a idgaf attitude but this is about you.It depends on your family they may come around but most likely wont you just gone have to deal with it either way

How do you know they most likely won't?

[Rozay]

How do you know they most likely won't?

I'm assuming they are African American and tbh are highly judgmental I know from experience

[tsamberskyi]

I'm assuming they are African American and tbh are highly judgmental I know from experience

Im west african(which is is an even more conservative culture) and my family has grown to love and accept me.
I imagine his family really loves and cares for him.I'm sure with time they will come around :).

[qcutta]

Im west african(which is is an even more conservative culture) and my family has grown to love and accept me.
I imagine his family really loves and cares for him.I'm sure with time they will come around :).

What part? My Father is as well (Ghanian)...but he passed on a few years ago, RIP.

But back on topic, I'm the baby bro of my three older brothers, so I can relate to you as well. I haven't came out and actually told my fam, but I think they might suspect something (mightve found some TS porn on my computer, way back when, xD). But since you're still young, they have to understand you're just growing up and exploring the world, so who knows who or what you date is gonna remain that way.

So my advice to you is if they really have a problem with your TS dating, just don't bring them home anymore. It will save you and any TS a lot of stress and headache. Hope things work out for you!