Frustrated

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Originally Posted by BlackBeard757

No need to look at myself. I treat Ts girls just like I would a real woman. I see them as one so I treat them as one. You dont know me to tell me to look at myself. I can see if I came at you sideways b4, then you would have the right to make that type of judgmental comment. I give any a chance 1st until they reveal who they really are.

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First of all we all must look to ourselves when we question things that happen in our lives or the ppl we pursue. From the things you listed try talking to ppl who don't do drugs or live in the gay lifestyle, or girls that escort since you have issues with that. I don't feel I was being judgemental but hey if you took it that way so be it.So before you get all defensive look and think about the things you yourself said when describing the girls you deal with.

I joined this forum for the humor. But I never really had anything to talk about or wanted to reply to anyone 's post bc I only know 2 ppl up here. but after a long talk with Remy today, she advised me that maybe I should post on how I feel or past experiences and see what others have to say bc she know others feel the same way. I had no idea I would get teased about it. I should've just kept my mouth shut

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Originally Posted by carmencream

First of all we all must look to ourselves when we question things that happen in our lives or the ppl we pursue. From the things you listed try talking to ppl who don't do drugs or live in the gay lifestyle, or girls that escort since you have issues with that. I don't feel I was being judgemental but hey if you took it that way so be it.So before you get all defensive look and think about the things you yourself said when describing the girls you deal with.

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If you knew me personally, you would know I'm a good due. I'm not out in the gay scene so I dont know if a Ts girl that I meet at that time is into that or into drugs until they reveal that to me. I dont have anything against girls that escort. They gotta do what they gotta do to survive. I have even dated one bc I knew that it was only business for her and didnt judge her bc of that. I had a problem when they claim they dont escort but then use that as an excuse for hooking up with another man is bc it was a quick trick while im being real and up front with u. All i'm am really saying is that it is frustrating when u meet a Ts girl and they put up a false front and you dont find out til its too late. But yet, they always complain about men only want sex from them but when a good dude comes along that respect you, that's the one they decide to shit on

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Originally Posted by tsamberskyi

Whenever a man uses the word fetish I know what it is

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p.s. I even made a comment back when u mention that U dont like guys that only see you for your dick and how that's not how to make u feel like a lady. If this was just a fetish for me, I would not have left a respectable reply to you like I did. I see nothing but all women in you like I said b4. I would try to holla at you even if you were a real woman. You are a beautiful woman regardless of your true gender. Your dick just adds the "Wow, Really?" factor to you. All it is a big clit to me.

I do want to say that it can be good to compromise with regards to the 'gay scene', to go out with your girl there if that's her idea of fun. Balls can be fun, and given the competitive aspects involved, along with drinks and party atmosphere, you really can have a good time.

Carmen also has a good point in that there are girls down here that work regular 9-5 jobs and live their lives as 'traditional' women. Perhaps that is the type of girl you should approach instead of the 'around the way' girl. I didn't see her post about "looking into yourself..." as being judgmental. That's actually common advice a therapist would give for a wide variety of issues.

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Originally Posted by BlackBeard757

If you knew me personally, you would know I'm a good due. I'm not out in the gay scene so I dont know if a Ts girl that I meet at that time is into that or into drugs until they reveal that to me. I dont have anything against girls that escort. They gotta do what they gotta do to survive. I have even dated one bc I knew that it was only business for her and didnt judge her bc of that. I had a problem when they claim they dont escort but then use that as an excuse for hooking up with another man is bc it was a quick trick while im being real and up front with u. All i'm am really saying is that it is frustrating when u meet a Ts girl and they put up a false front and you dont find out til its too late. But yet, they always complain about men only want sex from them but when a good dude comes along that respect you, that's the one they decide to shit on

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I don't know you personally but if you would have worded your post as you just did maybe you would have got another answer,but I still stand by my first post from the things you said before. I simply answered a question that you put out there.

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Originally Posted by Ms Remy M

I do want to say that it can be good to compromise with regards to the 'gay scene', to go out with your girl there if that's her idea of fun. Balls can be fun, and given the competitive aspects involved, along with drinks and party atmosphere, you really can have a good time.

Carmen also has a good point in that there are girls down here that work regular 9-5 jobs and live their lives as 'traditional' women. Perhaps that is the type of girl you should approach instead of the 'around the way' girl. I didn't see her post about "looking into yourself..." as being judgmental. That's actually common advice a therapist would give for a wide variety of issues.

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Thanks for the (logical )mind it's gladly appreciated!!!!

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Originally Posted by carmencream

First of all we all must look to ourselves when we question things that happen in our lives or the ppl we pursue. From the things you listed try talking to ppl who don't do drugs or live in the gay lifestyle, or girls that escort since you have issues with that. I don't feel I was being judgemental but hey if you took it that way so be it.So before you get all defensive look and think about the things you yourself said when describing the girls you deal with.

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I do have good stories as well, but they are so far and few. I'm just expressing the probs I have run into lately. And those probs are the ones that got me feeling this way. not all girls are like this. Just my recent run-ins. And it seems like that's all I have been coming across. I got to the point where I said I wasnt gonna deal with any other TS girls at all, but I couldnt hold my bad times against news ones that may not be that way. Maybe I enjoy the experience too much to give it up completely. I always say someone will come along that I can kool with and will love me as much as I love them. But after biting so many bad apples, who wants to keep trying to find a good apple to eat?

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Originally Posted by Ms Remy M

I do want to say that it can be good to compromise with regards to the 'gay scene', to go out with your girl there if that's her idea of fun. Balls can be fun, and given the competitive aspects involved, along with drinks and party atmosphere, you really can have a good time.

Carmen also has a good point in that there are girls down here that work regular 9-5 jobs and live their lives as 'traditional' women. Perhaps that is the type of girl you should approach instead of the 'around the way' girl. I didn't see her post about "looking into yourself..." as being judgmental. That's actually common advice a therapist would give for a wide variety of issues.

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I have gone to balls or a gay club in the past with a TS girl. It just wasn't for me. I did not like the fact that other men there tried to hit on me. I am not into men. But when u tell them that, they question as to why you are there or get labeled as gay bc you are there. So to eliminate that issue, I just chose not to go.

As a friend insistently pointed out to me today, a female can have just as many problems as ts. You have to treat each person as an individual and not necessarily shun the group as a whole. Perhaps it is time to look beyond the typical social networks you use (bgc) to find potential love interest...