Quote Originally Posted by MrKnockOut View Post
Since i'm not a pay to play dude and I don't go to gay clubs i've yet to really go there with a TS so it really hasn't been that serious for me to be "out and about"...most of my interactions have been via online

Also, I don't have to walk around and yell out i'm black every five minutes in order for people to know that i'm cool or what have you...why do gay folks feel like they have to walk around telling people they are out in order to do what exactly? I don't get that whole "i'm out" thing...
By no means do I mean "out" in the way that gays mean it.

I myself am stealth and haven't been in a gay or trans club in decades, nor
do I perceive gay and trans as the same thing.

I meant out and about, as in do you and your significant other do all the usual
things that regular people do. but as you have responded most of your
interactions have been online, so that is a moot point.

As to this:

Also, I don't have to walk around and yell out i'm black every five minutes in order for people to know that i'm cool or what have you...why do gay folks feel like they have to walk around telling people they are out in order to do what exactly? I don't get that whole "i'm out" thing...
I'm just a regular Black woman, if you are desirous of an answer to that
question, you're going to have to find a gay person.