Quote Originally Posted by nycguy View Post
That is so true! I went to school with a guy who after years of being straight decided to do gay porn. He even won award for his work. Soon as one of our mutual associates found out about him, it hit the grapevine like internet porn! There is no fence riding on sexuality in the black community. If you gay, you hang with gays and girls. If not you hang with the fellas. There is no middle ground there. So anyone who is outed is marked for life. You can never live down a dick in your mouth! So it's not surprising that most guys that like TS dont want any evidence.
I think these same guys that are worried about what community will think is over-rated. People may talk about this issue for a little while, but other shit will pop up for them to talk about and soon it will be "yesterday's news" like everything else. I'm about as far as one can get from the "black norm", when people see me they may ask a few questions here and there if they don't already know me or haven't seen me before, but I'm not being stigmatized by the community.

At the end of the day, it's no big deal really. No more than "You" make it. Life is too short to spend living it the way "others" think you should live your life. I don't only hang with "gays and girls" I know lots of straight guys and they don't shun me. "...marked for life" what is this the Scarlet Letter or something? lol It's not like you are going to be kicked out of your neighborhood, prevented from shopping at the mall, or drinking from water fountain if it's found out that you like TS. Time to grow up fellas.