relationships

[DirtySouth]

Remember that online social networking sites, tend to lend the impression that you are 'trollling' for tg's and may not be taken seriously from the jump.

There lies the problem. Online social networking is the only way for most of us to meet TGs, so we get trapped in the escort ring because most girls who are online are just that. You cant exactly go to a bar or social place (unless in some rare major cities) and find a nice girl. If you could, you may not even be comfortable with it to go alone. Hell, the rare times Ive been to one, its still mostly working girls in there.

[TSSexyChanel]

thank You Chanel, I Respect Your Responce.

Now Its My Turn. I Will Edit Chanel's Lovely Words To Echo What I've Come To Know From Guys Like Myself Who Would Like To Test The Waters Of Seriously Dating A Tgirl:

honestly Slim To None If She Is Online Escorting Or Having Web Cam Shows Daily Or Constantly In Search Of A Sugar Daddy. Many Of Us Are Very Cautious About The Real Desire Of Transsexuals Wanting To Be In A "serious Relationship". Stranger Things Have Happened But Remember Honesty Is Key They All Know Each Other And Will Lie On You Regardless.


Here Is My 1 Step Guide To Dating Tgirls:

1. If She Is An Escort, Don't Do It.

Lol...just A Little Humor There, Sorry If Anyone Gets Offended But This Is A Forum. We Have Been Down This Road Many A Time My Fellow Members. These Girls Are Amazing And We All Think That - Thats Why We Are Here. Lets Not For One Second Act As If The Girls Are Noble And We Are Not. Its Funny How Every Girl Knows You If You Sleep With One Of Them, But Yet If We Throw A Girls Picture Up, Half Of Us On The Forum Have Slept With Her. Lets Also Not Act Like Us Guys Are Noble And Treated Every Girl Fairly, Whether She Deserved It Or Not. I Dont See How A Working Man Should Have To "prove" Himself To A Tgirl Who Sees Other Men For Cash All Day. On The Other Hand, If Youre Married Or Know You Dont Want To Be With A Ts Outside Of Sex - Dont Sell These Girls A Dream! Everyone Has To Be Honest.

Bottom Line - It Can Be Done. You Also Could Make The U.s. Olympic Team For The 2012 Games. Is It Going To Happen? Probably Not. Do What You Feel Is Right And Live Your Own Life. Dating A Tgirl Might Be In The Cards For You. You Will Never Know Until You Try. But Always Remember, She Has To Prove To You Just As Much As You Have To Prove To Her. Hold Her Accountable For Her Actions.

thats Actually Truth Escorting And Serious Relationships Will Be Wrought With Drama. It's Often Very One Sided And Unfair. If A Girl Is Escorting And You Happen To Click I Think That A Plan To Make New Arrangements Should Be Made. It Is Too Many Dynamics In Relationships To Be Having To Be Worried About A Partner Sleeping With Someone Else.

I Know I Will Be Kicked Out Of The Transexual Union But Here Goes, Even A Sexual Situation Based Solely On Financial Gain Is Unfair If You Claim To Love A Man And Want To Be With Him. The Times That I Have Been In Long Term Relationships Or Dating With The Possibility Of Being In One I Have Always Stopped Active Escorting. Mainly Because I Would Not Be So Understanding If My Man Was Being Paid To Have Sex With Another Even If He Was Getting Paid And Bringing Me All The Money, Feelings Would Come Up In Me. I Always Believe In Fair Is Fair. Lots Of My Sisters Won't Admit It To You But The Estrogen Makes Us Very Selfish. Lol. We Only Want To See It Our Way.

I Had To Work Extra Hard On My Relationships And I Wasnt Even Having Sex With Anyone Just Doing Webcam Shows, Phone Sex Or My Site With Solo Action Only And It Still Would Be A Daily Work To Reassure My Man Especially When He Would Read All The Stuff Men Say About Me And The Stuff They Wanted To Do To Me.

I Am Honest If Nothing Else And You Guys Asked For It So Let Me Know If You Ever Can't Handle The Truth Cause When Asked I Will Tell. The Truth Stings For But A Moment But A Lie Can Wound For Life.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE BUILT ON TRUST WHERE IS THE TRUST WHERE THERE IS NO SACRIFICE

[sydian]

chanel...i want a 'serious' relation w/ u!....kisses, sydd

[TSSexyChanel]

chanel...i Want A 'serious' Relation W/ U!....kisses, Sydd

i Have Wanted You As My Huswife For Years Quit Playin

[DirtySouth]

I Had To Work Extra Hard On My Relationships And I Wasnt Even Having Sex With Anyone Just Doing Webcam Shows, Phone Sex Or My Site With Solo Action Only And It Still Would Be A Daily Work To Reassure My Man Especially When He Would Read All The Stuff Men Say About Me And The Stuff They Wanted To Do To Me.

I applaud you for that answer. That was pretty good and shows you have a high level of maturity.

BUT....

You're still missing the point. Not too many serious guys are going to settle down with someone that performs in the sex industry. Unfortunately, that goes almost double for the black t-girls from what Ive seen. Jealously and the whole hypocrisy of it would ruin the relationship. Its still cheating if you show your self off to other men in a sexual manner. You couldn't fairly ask your partner to remain faithful and contradict that with those type of actions.

[DYNACORD]

All the above is true about the Escorting in a relationship. It's harder than dating a beautiful stripper. You have to really be in love with this person and be able to turn away from that side of her job. It won't be easy cause after awhile you'll only want her to be touching you and vise versa.
But, if you find a girl who's not in that business:::that's awhole different senario. Then the dating game becomes more of a normal situation. That's what you are looking for, but hard to come buy, as we all know. They exist.
I can name 5 in the Detroit area who work in the business world with no problems. Happy Hunting.

[ROC]

ONLY MET 2 OF THEM, BUT I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO MEETING THE REST.................LOL



SHEEBA, SHYANA(BEYONCE), SHANISE, KATIE, DA'MYAH, NICOLE~FOX, DESTINY, VICTORIA, CANDY, AND NAOMI.....

[MrF]

One thing is for sure, the dynamics between TG and men is very different, on average, than the dynamic between GG and men (GG = genetic women). GG have their problems with men, but the TG problems are in a whole different league: not being taken seriously, being treated as a sex object, being a secret fetish, you name it.

I think a major difference is the lack of ability to have children. Now, a lot of guys aren't thinking about "reproduction", they're just thinking of getting their dick wet. But even the most mindless horndog is driven by his instincts, much like the behavior of a simple insect is driven by instinct.

Women use more energy for reproduction (gestation, child-rearing), so they are more circumspect; for men a tiny investment in energy may suffice -- hit and run -- but the women tend to demand as part of the deal that men invest far more energy (marriage, long-term support, respect). Typically this dynamic does not exist between men and TG, and it distorts things. Combine that with the disapproval of society and you have a tough situation. Not sure what to do about it ...

On the other hand, lots of gay couples form stable long-term relationships based on love and mutual respect, so it's impossible to make universal generalizations, and yes anything can happen.

[TurboMan]

One thing is for sure, the dynamics between TG and men is very different, on average, than the dynamic between GG and men (GG = genetic women). GG have their problems with men, but the TG problems are in a whole different league: not being taken seriously, being treated as a sex object, being a secret fetish, you name it.

I think a major difference is the lack of ability to have children. Now, a lot of guys aren't thinking about "reproduction", they're just thinking of getting their dick wet. But even the most mindless horndog is driven by his instincts, much like the behavior of a simple insect is driven by instinct.

Women use more energy for reproduction (gestation, child-rearing), so they are more circumspect; for men a tiny investment in energy may suffice -- hit and run -- but the women tend to demand as part of the deal that men invest far more energy (marriage, long-term support, respect). Typically this dynamic does not exist between men and TG, and it distorts things. Combine that with the disapproval of society and you have a tough situation. Not sure what to do about it ...

On the other hand, lots of gay couples form stable long-term relationships based on love and mutual respect, so it's impossible to make universal generalizations, and yes anything can happen.

damm.......you hit the nail on the head.

[aaronk]

good thread...i agree with the notion of keepin a wary eye toward gettin involved with an escort...what kills me is when they get jealous of you the dude gettin some on the side...the hypocrisy can really be somethin...secondly,i think regular gay couples can work better than the tg/straight? type...both gay partners will tend to have some "legit" jobs so the escort dynamic which is so prevalent with ts doesnt weigh so heavily in the relationship...