Trans Sistas don't date BM now?

[KitWilkins]

Well, I'm glad you cleared up a few things, but this family thing came from your mouth, not anyone on this board!

no, some girl said my parents would have still met if my dad blah blah blah something about chicken and birthed me. lol

Dont come for my family.

[TVSURFER]

no, some girl said my parents would have still met if my dad blah blah blah something about chicken and birthed me. lol

Dont come for my family.

You brought your family into the public arena, which means they are fair game! Personally, I don't care what egg you came from, but when you start something, count on unexpected results! Wise up! Oh, by the way, welcome to the forum!

[KitWilkins]

You brought your family into the public arena, which means they are fair game! Personally, I don't care what egg you came from, but when you start something, count on unexpected results! Wise up! Oh, by the way, welcome to the forum!

and that doesn't seem petty to you?

[TVSURFER]

and that doesn't seem petty to you?

Hey, that's your life, I don't know you from Adam!

[KitWilkins]

Hey, that's your life, I don't know you from Adam!

I wont even touch that one.

eve*

[TSSexyChanel]

** Givimg a standing ovation to TV Surfer **

And to Kit take it from a Vet, no matter what you have to say and how you mean things there are those that are going to take it and see it as they see fit.

Learn to let that be ok with that or you will spend your entire life explaining yourself to people and its just not worth it.

I have learned that people are entitled to their opinions of me and they are entitled to be wrong in those opinions cause when all is said and done I know me, my thoughts and my intentions better than anyone.

Those that don't get it oh well hells bells

CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES WISELY MOST STUFF AINT WORTH YOUR ATTENTION

Take everything said to you and about you with a grain of salt for the very people who will have something to say about you are also people with shit they need to work on in their own lives

PEOPLE CAN HAVE OPINIONS ABOUT ME BUT NO BODY CAN SIT IN JUDGMENT OF ME UNLESS I ALLOW IT.

AND I DON'T

[Ms Remy M]

Oh boy! Here we go.

So I"m the girl in this video.

Am I ignorant, SURE. I was raised in a predominately asian neighborhood and I've had predominately asian friends for my entire life.

All of the black men that have approached me THUS far have not been my type. Do you honestly expect for me to be interested in EVERY SINGLE BLACK GUY I MEET? That's delusional. Come on now. What kind of girl fucks every guy she meets. Please.

Also, and I didn't mention this in the video, but I really should have. A lot of black men are very secretive about their interest in transsexual women. The whole "downlow" concept". Now haven't dealt with discreet guys of all races, I can't deal with that at all. Most black men that have approached me have approached me for discreet sex. Any man of any race that approaches me for discreet sex WILL be shot down. Period. And it just so happens that african american men do that more often.

Combine that with the fact that i haven't actually experienced or lived with or even had classes with a lot of black men, of course my perception of black men is skewed.

This video was to made to simply express why I haven't dated black men. I have a lot of bad experiences (including the loss of my virginity) with black men. I will admit that I probably do unfairly judge black men because of the assholes of the past. Sure. However I am very open to dating black men. It's just the type of black man that i'm interested in is very very rare.

When you're a girl who has been raised in an area that is overwhelmingly the race that isn't your own, you're obviously going to develop a certain bias. Most of my asian girl friends liked white men. Point in case.


Unfortunately, I feel the way I feel based on my own experiences. If I ever meet a black guy who is artistic, into indie music, and into film and probably has a simliar up bringing as myself, then the chances are, I'm going to be into him. Hell, there are several black men on my campus who I AM attracted to. And that's because they're similar to me in that they do not allow their race to be the very determining factor in how they act and how they live.

I believe that so many people are slaves to their race. It angers me that no matter what my actual upringing and my actual background and nurture as a young woman, people STILL want to compare me to the typical black woman who was raised in the black community. I do not hate my race, but you have to understand that when you're not around people who make your race a big deal, the identity that you give yourself based on your race becomes less important.

Anyone who watched this video and thinks that i absolutely will not date a black man is LOSING IT. Do i give black guys a chance, sure. Do I have higher standards for black men? Probably. But consider what I'm looking for as far as a man in general. Strip away everything about race and look at what I"m looking for in a man. Are those traits more common in the black community or the white community? Think. So, that being said, of course i have higer standards. Does that mean that I'd date a fat ass white guy, hell no. In fact, I think on average, i find black men more attractive. But it can't honestly be about looks it has to be about the personality. And it's a fact that I have a very hard time speaking to the average black man that i've met. Hell, i have a hard time really even speaking to my extended family.


As far as my family is concerned, I"m ADOPTED and no, my parents wouldn't have met eachother because they ran in very different circles and came from very different backgrounds. My mother upper middle class, my father from the projects. So please dont even come for my family like that when dont know anything about it.

The most judgemental, unfriendly and racist people I've ever met were African American. Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong people, but that's my exposure to african americans. Sorry. Black people judge me so much for doing things that are natural for me. Judging me for the way I speak, the way I dress, the way I do my hair, the way I do my make up, the school I go to and my life choices. They're the only group of people who have consistently given me problems whenever i am interacting with them. And that's just the truth.

I am young. I"m 20 years old (and yes a junior in college, you silly silly girl). I am still growing, I am still expanding my view on the world and my view of people. If I met more black men that I felt I was compatible with, for sure I'd be dating them. But the reality is that it is hard to find an artistic, hipster/indie black man, who isn't discreet, who is comfortable within his sexuality and who speaks in a way I can flow with. I'm SURE they exist, as i've stated, i've met some.

If you were seriously offended by my video, please grow up. My opinions are based on my experience in my mere 20 years of life. And they are bound to change. I do not think black men are lower than me and I do not think I'm white or even asian for that matter. I know who I am, I just wish I didn't have to argue with black people about every time we meet eachother face to face.

if you're still unclear, send me a message. If you think I hate black men, save your time. Flaming me and saying I'm ugly and that I"m this or that I'm that is really not going to help me like black men.


On another note, I almost modeled for this website. hahaaahah.

Welcome to the forum and great post!! I personally, can agree with a lot that you've said regarding upbringing, being a Military Brat and having a multi-cultural surrounding.

Someone on this forum, made a stink about me not sounding black, and I've had more than a few models think I am white only to meet me on set and see the color of my skin. Nothing about the way I live my life screams black/urban. I listen to Rock, use to skate board, ski, ride horses, shop at Hot Topics, play in a band, and read comics. My friends of other races always welcomed me, but the black peers would "hate" and call me weird for liking Maynard Keenan, Kurt Cobain, and Trent Reznor. People have said I "act white", but I'm just being myself, not trying to "act" like anything. Damn the status quo, live your life and be happy. What these nameless people think of you on this forum or anywhere else is totally meaningless as long as you are happy.

If you ever change your mind about modeling, give me a shout.

[Ms Remy M]

I know at times I have been accused of hating black men and to those that are hearing me instead of listening to me I still seem that way. I understand her hurt because until you know who you are as a person and are able to define yourself you turn your internal rage on others.

I have no issue with black men or men of any race cause there is no person on this planet that I have to deal with all my interactions with people are by choice.

I don't make sweeping generalizations other than in my witty sarcasm that I use at times to break the ice on touchy subjects.

My father is a black man I have lots of successful educated and influential black men in my life as well as many black friends. I never want to appear as someone who says it doesn't exist I just wish that more of them did.

Our youth are being raised to be a culture of ignorant disrespectful bastards that treat women like shit. I am harder on black men I think because I expect more from the if they knew the greatness they came from and what greatness is still being achieved they wouldn't disrespect themselves the way they do and definitely wouldn't be so disrespectful and hurtful to black women.

I don't excuse black women or trannies either because everyone has their part to play in how the male female interactions go. I can say personally that I rarely have any issue with black men approaching me any old kind of way cause I always let them know I love me enough so I dont need their love and or validation if you can't be an asset to my life your are unnecessary to it.

Any one who knows me knows not to approach me in any way that you wouldn't want someone to approach your mother.

I actually like black men alot and I know even a few men who come on the internet and act like pigs and jerks are completely different in their "real life" my only thing with that is eventually you start to forget whats real and whats not and the games people play on the net occasionally bleed over into their real life interactions.

Thats another reason I constantly remind men that TsSexyChanel is my job my name is Chanel Winn DeCarlo and that is who you are now speaking with and if you insist on talking to me in my real life like you are talking to TsSexyChanel then you need to pay me.

So glad to have you active on this forum again!

[thegirlnextdoor]

Welcome to the forum and great post!! I personally, can agree with a lot that you've said regarding upbringing, being a Military Brat and having a multi-cultural surrounding.

Someone on this forum, made a stink about me not sounding black, and I've had more than a few models think I am white only to meet me on set and see the color of my skin. Nothing about the way I live my life screams black/urban. I listen to Rock, use to skate board, ski, ride horses, shop at Hot Topics, play in a band, and read comics. My friends of other races always welcomed me, but the black peers would "hate" and call me weird for liking Maynard Keenan, Kurt Cobain, and Trent Reznor. People have said I "act white", but I'm just being myself, not trying to "act" like anything. Damn the status quo, live your life and be happy. What these nameless people think of you on this forum or anywhere else is totally meaningless as long as you are happy.

If you ever change your mind about modeling, give me a shout.

omg..i used to have fantasies about trent reznor when i was in high school.hes one of the few white guys that could more than get it ;P.
oh and a perfect circle is my fav band ever,though tool is pretty cool .maynard could probally get it too lol

[KitWilkins]

I'm so glad people undersatnd where i'm comming from now. I hate having to defend myself. ugh.