Quote Originally Posted by kittymatthews View Post

See, the guy i'm going out with now i've yet to sleep with. Maybe it's because he's comfortable with his money, but he's never ever ever had a problem taking me to dinner the movies ect. I know and i've learned that some men can just throw down money and that that doesn't mean much, BUT those aren't the sort of guys i'm talking about.


I'm not talking about meeting up with a guy and waiting for him to buy me dinner just so he can fuck me and dump me. lol. I'm not hooking up right now. So i'm looking for something more serious. I dont see how a guy is a chump for enjoying taking me out and paying for it. some guys dont view that as me taking advantage of them.

I dont use guys for money. As previously stated, i've dated guys who were on EBT and had a BLAST. But see, he knew how to work the EBT. He knew how it worked and wasn't confused or ashamed or hesitant to use it. He had confidence in his poverty and knew how to get from point A to point B easily without viewing it as work. I like guys who i can be with comfortably. I'm not a gold digger, but i do like when a guy doesn't make me have to figure everything out.


So explain, what is naive about wanting to be comfortable with the guy you're with?

How many women do you know that want to enter into relationships where they have full reign and contorol over everything? How many women do you know that want to be in dominat positions in a relationship. I simply dont enjoy taking on dominat traits in a relationship at all, ever. Are you saying that once i accept a more dominate approach, i will be less naive?
1. See what I mean about you twisting words? Where did you get "dominant positions" or any form of "dominate" from? You have very strange views of male/female relationships.

2. Congratulations if you've met someone you are comfortable with and is comfortable with you. I must say if he's been treating you for THREE MONTHS and not got any action yet, then he must really be into you ... - how does he feel about you doing cam shows, putting nudes online yet he doesn't get any ... because personally, I'd feel that was a bit of a tease?

I'm not talking about buying a dinner for someone, I said that at the beginning, I'm talking about a level of respect, do you ever reach into your pocket on a date? Do you buy a round of drinks for him (and his friends), do you buy the popcorn? Do you pay the DVD rental? I'm on a different economical level to many of the people I spend time with so I like to pick up a lot of bills so they don't feel uncomfortable (or unable to go out) but they usually show a least a modicum of respect.