Why do Men Feel its okay to not be 100% open dating TS

[thegirlnextdoor]

i feel this way,if you know that you arent ready to truly be with a ts girl than dont waste her time and mess with her feelings.if your that caught up on the "social pressures" than just find a ts escort and pay her for your time.
this whole social pressure thing is bullshit anyway.my boyfriend and i havent really encountered any hostility or static.like i said not a single family member or friend asked him if i was a man or none of that nonsense.i dont think its because im that pretty or passable.i believe its because he's so confident in who he is and about being with me that it doesnt come off in any other way other than natural.
i wish me being trans was a deterrent for women.i dont know if it cause they might know im trans or cause hes a 6'2 latin pretty boy but these hoes be falling all over themselves around this nigga lol.

[CosmicTraveler]

You should approach someone by whether they have a dick or not. it should be i find u attractive. Later down the line you may end up with a gg woman who makes u happier then u thought u would have been with a tg woman.

I prefer not to approach people in general. >_>

Besides both tgs and ggs have been pretty much even as far as my experiences go. At this point I have to see them all as women because they've all had the same varying degrees of personality traits that I hate and love. However I do think it would be a weird experience to pull down a girl's pants expecting a dick and not getting one. I imagine there'd be no way to hide the reaction upon one's face and of course from there, there's questions. You can lie, or you can be honest, and that would likely determine the kind of relationship that you had with that person from now on... I think too much.

[CosmicTraveler]

i feel this way,if you know that you arent ready to truly be with a ts girl than dont waste her time and mess with her feelings.if your that caught up on the "social pressures" than just find a ts escort and pay her for your time.
this whole social pressure thing is bullshit anyway.my boyfriend and i havent really encountered any hostility or static.like i said not a single family member or friend asked him if i was a man or none of that nonsense.i dont think its because im that pretty or passable.i believe its because he's so confident in who he is and about being with me that it doesnt come off in any other way other than natural.
i wish me being trans was a deterrent for women.i dont know if it cause they might know im trans or cause hes a 6'2 latin pretty boy but these hoes be falling all over themselves around this nigga lol.

That's another thing I was working my way to. If you feel like you can't date a TS like any other person, you shouldn't. Go pay one who doesn't give a damn about whether or not you show her off to your family. It's much easier for you and you get that... shamed feeling that you seem to like so much after you're done.

Also... stop your bragging woman... - __- ( some of us are... really jealous... )

[raheme]

i feel this way,if you know that you arent ready to truly be with a ts girl than dont waste her time and mess with her feelings.if your that caught up on the "social pressures" than just find a ts escort and pay her for your time.
this whole social pressure thing is bullshit anyway.my boyfriend and i havent really encountered any hostility or static.like i said not a single family member or friend asked him if i was a man or none of that nonsense.i dont think its because im that pretty or passable.i believe its because he's so confident in who he is and about being with me that it doesnt come off in any other way other than natural.
i wish me being trans was a deterrent for women.i dont know if it cause they might know im trans or cause hes a 6'2 latin pretty boy but these hoes be falling all over themselves around this nigga lol.

So what's applicable for your boyfriend should be standard for all dudes? Ummm, ok, I see.

Just because I can paint don't make me picaso.

I played ball in college but mj I am not.

What works for 1 doesn't always work for another.

I really dislike when people do hypocritical shit.

Ms. Amber, were u a ts in dc? Didn't u say u moved to ny to transition and be away from the judgements of folks u grew up with? Isn't that social pressure? So on one hand this social pressure 'bullshit' was strong enough for u to do things the way u did but not strong enough for a potential mate to have doubts about 'coming out' to his fam and friends...

Nah that's not a double standard at all

[thegirlnextdoor]

So what's applicable for your boyfriend should be standard for all dudes? Ummm, ok, I see.

Just because I can paint don't make me picaso.

I played ball in college but mj I am not.

What works for 1 doesn't always work for another.

I really dislike when people do hypocritical shit.

Ms. Amber, were u a ts in dc? Didn't u say u moved to ny to transition and be away from the judgements of folks u grew up with? Isn't that social pressure? So on one hand this social pressure 'bullshit' was strong enough for u to do things the way u did but not strong enough for a potential mate to have doubts about 'coming out' to his fam and friends...
Nah that's not a double standard at all

um no thats not what i said.dont think you have me figured out because we exchanged a few text messages lol.
i left dc not because i wanted to transition but because i had alot of negative stuff going on in my life that werent transition related.i have been extremely fem my whole life and expressed it thru the way i dressed,mannerisms,and etc. so my sexuality and gender expression was less of an issue with my family/friends.i never really went thru any of that bullying,ostracize crap that some people go thru.i have a relationship with my family and as you know i was down there a few weeks ago visiting them.
my ending up in new york was purely accidental after doing some volunteer work in chiang mai,thiland.
and yes what is applicable for my boyfriend will be the standard for all dudes i date after him (if theres an after him lol).if any one doesnt like that they dont have to date me,im not strong arming niggas here lmao.
i always find it interesting when guys get mad or offended because of how i choose to live my life.you dont see me getting angry at you becuase you dont want to date an escort (yet you tried to holla at me) or because you have reservations about openly dating a ts.im not going to be mad at you,your just not going to have any place in my life (other than say as a client,and thats not my life lol).

[CosmicTraveler]

.if any one doesnt like that they dont have to date me,im not strong arming niggas here lmao.

You say things that generally amuse me.

[BigJoeKrash]

I never had an issue with it. I have always treated my lady with respect. Never had a problem going out for meals, movies, or just to see the family.

[raheme]

um no thats not what i said.dont think you have me figured out because we exchanged a few text messages lol.
i left dc not because i wanted to transition but because i had alot of negative stuff going on in my life that werent transition related.i have been extremely fem my whole life and expressed it thru the way i dressed,mannerisms,and etc. so my sexuality and gender expression was less of an issue with my family/friends.i never really went thru any of that bullying,ostracize crap that some people go thru.i have a relationship with my family and as you know i was down there a few weeks ago visiting them.
my ending up in new york was purely accidental after doing some volunteer work in chiang mai,thiland.
and yes what is applicable for my boyfriend will be the standard for all dudes i date after him (if theres an after him lol).if any one doesnt like that they dont have to date me,im not strong arming niggas here lmao.
i always find it interesting when guys get mad or offended because of how i choose to live my life.you dont see me getting angry at you becuase you dont want to date an escort (yet you tried to holla at me) or because you have reservations about openly dating a ts.im not going to be mad at you,your just not going to have any place in my life (other than say as a client,and thats not my life lol).

I can only go by what u tell me...all this is new to me.
I guess we will never be a pair because, unlike your dude, I would never want my chick escorting. Sorry. I'm a do what I gotta do, mami lemme handle that, type of dude.
Yes, I tried to talk to you but perhaps you misunderstood me, I didn't know u were an escort until u put that out there. All I knew was u were a fly lil redbone that posed for btg and u were in dc visiting fam and friends for the weekend.
And damn I wish y'all would get it straight, I have no problem openly dating a fly ass ts, I do have reservations about dating an escort of any gender. Health and safety reasons.

[Handandsom]

You should approach someone by whether they have a dick or not. it should be i find u attractive. Later down the line you may end up with a gg woman who makes u happier then u thought u would have been with a tg woman.

And here is where I think I can chime in with my cents. No man is a 100% when dating, period. As a man who was once a boy, I've had all kinds of feelings about dating as i grew there was; who to date and who not to date, who to spend on and who not to spend on, who to introduce to my family and who not to introduce to my family, etc. And by the way this was just for the opposite gender. So can you understand the scope of this issue when you introduce the Trans-gender. Keyword being "TRANS"