People might be afraid to give feedback because of the strong feelings involved and the fear of a backlash. Plus I guess it is mostly a porn forum. Intellectual threads don't get much play. This one was got more than average.

Regarding the video clips, I can't help but feel that the women in the videos have no business being upset. They're young, beautiful, apparently intelligent (from the little I can see) and strong. Make better choices about men and you should be fine. For example, the girl in post #5 ("my man"): I bet she's found her man and is just reporting on it.

Regarding the original post, it seems to me the solution to the problem of falling in love with a dude who is in the closet is: don't do that ! Instead, fall in love with someone who is open and willing to treat you with respect. I'll admit, though, that it might be easier said than done ...

How's that for feedback ?