ladies: if u knew a girl had a disease

[raheme]

An infectious disease like hiv, herpes, etc. And she was still escorting would you out her or try to convince her that what she's doing is wrong?

How far does the pink wall of silence extend?

Condoms aren't 100% effective, some times they break and some diseases like crabs can still be caught with the use of condoms.

Seems like whenever a girl dies young because of an std you'll here other girls comment on her death knowing that she was sick but still seeing clients but you never here them say that she was wrong for doing so.

[carmencream]

I would never out someone who had a disease because it's not my place to do so, I would ask them to be safe and use protection,I know protection is not 100 percent safe but it decreases your chances of catching something. In escorting there are plenty of clients with dirty hands also,IE breaking condoms, offering to pay more for sex without condoms and some girls are naive or desperate enough to do so. I remember when I lived in Atlanta there were girls who had hiv and it was common knowledge ,but because they were pretty or would do anything or hung, guy's would still flock to them,So I just tell guy's and girl's to be careful and know that when your having sex with a perfect stranger take every precaution and know that whatever comes of it was your own choice.

[thegreat1]

An infectious disease like hiv, herpes, etc. And she was still escorting would you out her or try to convince her that what she's doing is wrong?

How far does the pink wall of silence extend?

Condoms aren't 100% effective, some times they break and some diseases like crabs can still be caught with the use of condoms.

Seems like whenever a girl dies young because of an std you'll here other girls comment on her death knowing that she was sick but still seeing clients but you never here them say that she was wrong for doing so.

Most wouldn't tell dudes about their 'sisters' but they'd tell their 'sisters' about a dude...kind of a blue shield, code of silence type of thing

[vidman]

I would never out someone who had a disease because it's not my place to do so, I would ask them to be safe and use protection,I know protection is not 100 percent safe but it decreases your chances of catching something. In escorting there are plenty of clients with dirty hands also,IE breaking condoms, offering to pay more for sex without condoms and some girls are naive or desperate enough to do so. I remember when I lived in Atlanta there were girls who had hiv and it was common knowledge ,but because they were pretty or would do anything or hung, guy's would still flock to them,So I just tell guy's and girl's to be careful and know that when your having sex with a perfect stranger take every precaution and know that whatever comes of it was your own choice.

Well said!

[Indy24]

I had a tranny call herself warning me about a friend of her's who had something.

But she only outed her because she was jealous and liked me. But the Tgirl in question was just cool and had already told me ages ago. So now she looked like an even bigger un-passable ass for going behind her girlfriends back. The same friend who gave her a home when she was on the damn street. And with her track record God only knew what she was carrying her damn self!

And here it is 3 years since my friend had passed away and that snitches crack headed ass is slowly smoking her life away.... So what was the damn point of her living and my friend who'd give her last while still dealing with her own problems, dying????

So R.I.P. to you my angel, I know you're in a better place but you're definitely missed right now <

[CosmicTraveler]

Another one of the multi-facets of Indy. Sorry to hear about that. Losing someone is never easy.

[bigdicki]

I would never out someone who had a disease because it's not my place to do so, I would ask them to be safe and use protection,I know protection is not 100 percent safe but it decreases your chances of catching something. In escorting there are plenty of clients with dirty hands also,IE breaking condoms, offering to pay more for sex without condoms and some girls are naive or desperate enough to do so. I remember when I lived in Atlanta there were girls who had hiv and it was common knowledge ,but because they were pretty or would do anything or hung, guy's would still flock to them,So I just tell guy's and girl's to be careful and know that when your having sex with a perfect stranger take every precaution and know that whatever comes of it was your own choice.

I have to disagree with this. If you know someone has something like Herpes or HIV then you MUST tell anyone you KNOW about it that could be fucking with them. Decisions are based on the knowledge one has at any given moment. If you know someone is going to possibly run across an infected person, then I feel one is obligated to let people know. Furthermore, if a trick or hoe is having sex with people for money and NOT telling people they are infected, it should be a criminal offense.

I agree with the "be safe" advice, but overall, in my opinion that's not enough.

[carmencream]

I have to disagree with this. If you know someone has something like Herpes or HIV then you MUST tell anyone you KNOW about it that could be fucking with them. Decisions are based on the knowledge one has at any given moment. If you know someone is going to possibly run across an infected person, then I feel one is obligated to let people know. Furthermore, if a trick or hoe is having sex with people for money and NOT telling people they are infected, it should be a criminal offense.

I agree with the "be safe" advice, but overall, in my opinion that's not enough.

Like you said it's your opinion and I stated my own ,First off I'm not the CDC so like I said b4 I tell everyone to be safe and I feel that I have done my job , I don't disclose pp'ls status's because that is not for me to tell and it is a criminal offense for ppl to be sex-workers and have diseases. It's time for ppl to Take responsibility for their on actions and stop thinking others have their best interest in mind, esp if they are being paid .

[vidman]

Like you said it's your opinion and I stated my own ,First off I'm not the CDC so like I said b4 I tell everyone to be safe and I feel that I have done my job , I don't disclose pp'ls status's because that is not for me to tell and it is a criminal offense for ppl to be sex-workers and have diseases. It's time for ppl to Take responsibility for their on actions and stop thinking others have their best interest in mind, esp if they are being paid .

I agree with Ms. Carmen. As citizens, our only obligation is to encourage one another to be safe. Just as it's a criminal offense to knowingly have a disease and engage in sexual intercourse without telling your partner, it is also a criminal offense to disclose someone's health information to the public. It's called HIPPA (Health Information Privacy Protection Act) Laws. Check em out. Health records are NEVER public and you can definitely end up in jail for a long time for disclosing private health info. I know a few people that have HIV right now, but I would NEVER tell anyone who they are because I have no right to disclose their very private and personal information.

My advice.......Protect yaselves or abstain and you won't have to worry about contracting.

[bigdicki]

I agree with Ms. Carmen. As citizens, our only obligation is to encourage one another to be safe. Just as it's a criminal offense to knowingly have a disease and engage in sexual intercourse without telling your partner, it is also a criminal offense to disclose someone's health information to the public. It's called HIPPA (Health Information Privacy Protection Act) Laws. Check em out. Health records are NEVER public and you can definitely end up in jail for a long time for disclosing private health info. I know a few people that have HIV right now, but I would NEVER tell anyone who they are because I have no right to disclose their very private and personal information.

My advice.......Protect yaselves or abstain and you won't have to worry about contracting.

Vidman, I appreciate many of your posts, but this one is a little incorrect. It's HIPAA first of all (Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act) and, without boring the board with all the legal specifics, it was meant to do 3 major things: 1) limit the restrictions insurance companies can place on coverage, 2) decrease the amount of people dropped from their insurance and 3) drastically increase the amount of medical information available electronically to increase efficiency and hopefully reduce costs. It didn't do a great job at any of the 3. However, because of the 3rd issue, Congress realized that there would be real concerns over the availability and security of people's private health records, so they instituted a variety of rules (primiarily in a provision called the HITECH Act) that dealt with information privacy as it relates to people who have direct access to medical records (i.e. nurses, doctors, pharmacists, etc.). If you don't have access to those medical records, then HIPAA doesn't make discussing someone's medical issues a crime and you won't end up in jail. If you are lying it could make it defamation or libel, but that's civil and not criminal and a whole other issue....

As to your point: "As citizens, our only obligation is to encourage one another to be safe", well that's not an obligation as a citizen. In fact, what I am suggesting is not an obligation as a "citizen". In our legal system, in most states, you have only the obligation to report a specific felonious act if you have knowledge of it before the act occurs. Because, it is in fact NOT a crime in most areas for an HIV or herpes infected person to have sex with another person and not tell them, then there isn't even a crime there nor would it be a crime if you knew they were going to slap uglies beforehand and didn't tell. Now, what I am saying is that a) we have the moral responsibility to inform someone we know if you know they will or might have sex with someone who is infected and b) it should be a specific criminal act for a person who knows they have an STD to have sex with someone else and not tell them. I am not saying we shouldn't have personal responsibility, but I am saying I look out for my brothers (and sisters) and what they do with the info I provide is their responsibility.