Quote Originally Posted by Handandsom View Post
The last two replys make good sense I'm glad TVSURfer added woman in on that notion of not knowing how to be in a relationship. Most of them have no idea of their roles in a relationship. Which really makes me wonder about the obstacles of the TS community. Its all one big game and I'm almost totally convinced of this. As MrF put it w/o using the exact word these ladies search for what they think they want to only find out that its not what they thought they wanted, and if analyzed would understand it to be the hunt/challenge that never got out of their systems. Can't transform that.
There are many girls who never learn to be women. A lot of people walk around and virtually play a role based upon their understanding and perceptions which way too often seem limited to the world of fashion and encompassing an unattainable ideal. I think if a man truly wants a girl, and vice versa, they have to leave their prior hangups at the door and start fresh. Give a person a chance to impress or disappoint but to walk into a situation with expectations leads always to disappointment. If u want someone to be real, u have to give them real in return. The reciprocation can't start and end at financial responsibilities. Both individuals must be committed to keeping each other happy, enough so that u are taking care of ur responsibilities out of a compulsion to make life easier for ur partner. Some of u guys' concerns are valid, but perhaps ur still dealing with a tgirl and not a transwoman. Just because someone lives their life as a woman, doesn't always equate being transgendered. There are a great many gay boys who see this life as a cash cow or a way to not be ugly as a boy and so they commit to it. To each their own, but you'll find a big difference between the trials and tribulations of a homosexual relationship and those of a hetero one. But the key is to really know and get into the being of a potential partner so u know which one you'll get.